How to Plan a Bridal Shower (with Pictures) (2024)

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Last Updated: February 22, 2022References

Planning a bridal shower is a fun and creative endeavor that will create a lasting memory for the bride. The shower can be as simple or as elaborate as you want, and you don’t have to spend a ton of money to create an impressive and unforgettable event. Create a guest list, decide on a date, time, and location for the shower, then send out the invitations. Select decorations that tie into the wedding theme or colors, and plan a few fun activities for the guests. Provide simple refreshments and send each guest home with a small favor to remember the day by.

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Deciding on the Details

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    Speak to the bride about the guest list. Unless the bridal shower is a surprise, you should get the bride’s input on who she wants to attend. Write a list of everyone she wants to invite, and ask for the guest’s addresses so you can send them invitations, as well.[1]

    • Remind the bride that anyone invited to the shower should also be invited to the wedding.
  2. 2

    Determine the budget. Typically, the hostess pays for the bridal shower. If you aren’t sure you can manage tackling the cost on your own, consider asking a few of the bride’s close friends or family members to co-host the shower with you. The cost of the shower can be split evenly between the hostesses.[2]

    • You don’t need to shell out a ton of cash to have a nice shower. Consider splurging on a beautiful location and keeping decorations and refreshments to a minimum.
    • Alternately, host the party in someone’s home to save money and purchase cute cupcakes and simple floral arrangements for a fancy feel.
  3. 3

    Select a date and time. Typically, bridal showers are held on the weekend. Speak to the bride well in advance to find a date and time that works well for her. She’ll be busy planning the wedding and may have other engagements, like cake tastings or dress fittings, to work around.[3]

    • Opt for a mid-afternoon shower if you want to avoid serving a full meal.
  4. 4

    Choose a location or book a venue. If possible, give the bride a choice of several locations and let her decide which she likes best. For example, you could offer to host the party at your home, at a local restaurant, or at an outdoor event venue in town. Once she’s selected a location, book the venue, if applicable.[4]

  5. 5

    Choose a theme for the shower that matches the wedding theme or colors. Speak to the bride about what she envisions for the shower. Oftentimes, the wedding colors will work for the shower as well. Or, you can choose a theme based on the bride’s interests or plans for the marriage.[5]

    • For instance, if the duo plans to honeymoon in the Caribbean, go for a Caribbean-themed bridal shower. Decorate with seashells and tropical flowers, play reggae music, and serve island co*cktails.
    • Alternatively, if the wedding has a roaring 20s theme, decorate the invitations and space with feathers and bling, play 1920s music at the shower, or even request that guests come in flapper dresses.
  6. 6

    Send out invitations 1 month before the event. To ensure that guests can make arrangements to attend, party invitations should be sent out no less than 1 month before the event. You can hand-make invitations, buy invitation templates to fill in, or have invitations printed specifically for the event.[6]

    • Include information about where the bride is registered for the bridal shower, if applicable.
    • Keep track of the RSVPs so you know how many guests to expect, and make a point to reach out to anyone you don’t receive an RSVP from.

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Designing the Event

  1. 1

    Plan the menu. Ask guests to let you know of any allergies or dietary restrictions ahead of time so you can plan accordingly. The menu can be as simple or elaborate as you want: you can serve appetizers or a full meal, or even have the event catered. Don’t forget to provide a selection of refreshments, like water, lemonade, tea, coffee, and soda—and wine or co*cktails, too, if desired.[7]

    • A cake is the typical dessert for a bridal shower, but don’t be afraid to change it up and serve something like chocolate mousse, instead.
    • Tea sandwiches, fruit and cheese plates, or a bruschetta bar with different toppings would make great appetizers.
    • If the party is themed, try to incorporate the theme into the menu. For instance, if the theme is “travel,” choose dishes and from various countries to give an international feel.
  2. 2

    Choose the decor. Consider the bride’s theme or colors when planning the decor. You’ll likely want linens, flowers, centerpieces, balloons, confetti, streamers or banners, wall art, or even photos of the couple. Not only do flowers make beautiful, high-impact decorations, they are also great take-home gifts for the bride and groom, so if you have a chance to splurge, do so on flowers.[8]

    • It’s often cheaper to rent tables, chairs, and linens for an event rather than purchase them, so look into that option if desired.
    • If the colors of the shower are navy and white, for example, choose navy tablecloths and white napkins. Opt for navy and white floral centerpieces or add navy and white streamers or banners to the space.
    • If the theme is “travel,” for instance, laminate maps for placemats and use globes as centerpieces. Put posters or photos of exotic locales on the wall and stack several travel guidebooks on end tables.[9]
  3. 3

    Decide on activities or party games. It’s a good idea to choose music to play during the event. And while it’s nice to chat and mingle, you may want some activities or games to liven up the party. Do an Internet search to find ideas for fun and modern games.[10]

    • For instance, have guests write date night ideas on small Popsicle sticks and put them in a jar for the bride and groom to choose from later.
    • You could also make or buy custom bridal shower mad libs and have guests fill in the blanks to give marriage advice or tell the story of how the bride and groom met.
  4. 4

    Select favors to send home with guests, if desired. The favors don’t need to be elaborate or expensive. Small jars of jam or honey, pretty bottle stoppers or wine charms, and small potted plants or succulents make great gifts. You could also give out chocolates or other edible treats. Tie in the theme of the shower too, if you want.[11]

    • For instance, if the shower has a spay day theme, send the guests home with candles, face masks, bath salts, scented soaps, or nail polish.
  5. 5

    Shop for supplies and make reservations. Purchase any decorations, props, paper goods, plates, cups, flatware, serving utensils and party favors ahead of time. You’ll also need ingredients for any dishes or drinks you plan to make. If you are renting a space or any equipment, ordering flowers or a cake, or having the event catered, make those arrangements as soon as possible.[12]

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Setting Up the Day of the Shower

  1. 1

    Arrive early to make sure everything gets done. On the day of the shower, you’ll need to arrive at the venue well before the bride and guests. Ensure the space is clean and that you have everything you need. Depending on how much you have you do, you may need up to several hours to set up.[13]

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    Decorate the space. Arrange furniture, if necessary, to make enough room for the guests and set up any equipment that’s needed. You should also make a spot for gifts and arrange any supplies for games or activities. Add linens and place settings to the tables, if applicable. Display any photos or art and hang banners or streamers. Set out centerpieces or floral arrangements, too.[14]

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    Arrange food and drink stations. It’s a good idea to prep the food the day before the shower if you are cooking yourself. Make any last-minute dishes or drinks the day of the party. Set out food on serving platters or use chafing dishes or bowls of ice to keep your dishes hot or cold, as appropriate.

    • You’ll need to arrange plates, cups, flatware, serving utensils, and napkins, too!
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    Set out the favors and make a gift-opening area. Arrange a space for the bride to open her gifts. Make sure there’s enough seating for the guests to be comfortable during this part of the shower. It’s a good idea to arrange the favors on a small table or bench near the door. That way, you’ll remember to hand one to each guest on their way out.[15]

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    Greet the guests as they arrive. Smile and introduce yourself to anyone you don’t know. Thank each person for coming, and point out party necessities or let them know what to expect.[16]

    • For instance, say, “Hey, Marsha, thanks for coming! Go ahead in and grab a drink. We’re going to eat in about 30 minutes.”
    • Alternatively, say, “Nice to see you again Joan! I’m so glad you could make it. Please set your gift by the stairwell and grab a mad lib from the table on the right.”
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    Stay after the shower to clean up. Since you’re the host, you’re in it for the long haul. Plan to stay late to ensure the bride takes home all her gifts and favors. You’ll need to make sure the catering crew gets paid, if applicable, and arrange pick up for rental items, like linens, tables, and chairs. Decorations will need to be taken down and the space will also need to be cleaned after the party.[17]

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    How involved should the bride be in the bridal shower?

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    The bride usually doesn't host the bridal shower—the bridal shower should assist with that. The bride should be relaxed and not have to worry about things.

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    Plan out some kind of structure to give people a sense of what to expect. For instance, you might start with some mingling, then go into an activity or a meal, or go into a set of informal toasts before you open gifts, if that's a part of the bridal shower?

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    I think it's a good idea to have a photographer. There can be some really heartfelt moments that create cool photo opportunities at a bridal shower.

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      This article was co-authored by Ivy Summer and by wikiHow staff writer, Sophia Latorre. Ivy Summer is a Certified Wedding Planner and the Owner of Voulez Events. Ivy has over 10 years of experience consulting, planning and coordinating weddings around the globe. She has also created a DIY online wedding planning workshop for couples, called "Plan Your Wedding Like A Pro." She currently resides in Greece where she continues to work with a worldwide network of planners and wedding professionals. This article has been viewed 9,323 times.

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      To plan a bridal shower, start by suggesting a few venue options to the bride, like a friend's house, a restaurant, or an outdoor venue, and letting her choose which one she likes the best. Then, ask the bride for a guest list, and send out invitations at least 1 month in advance. Next, start planning what food and drinks you'll serve, and choose a theme or color scheme for the decorations. For example, you could do a tea party theme and serve tea, finger sandwiches, cake, and co*cktails. You should also plan fun activities for the shower, like games and dancing. For tips on how to set up on the day of the bridal shower, scroll down!

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      How to Plan a Bridal Shower (with Pictures) (2024)

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      What pictures to take at a bridal shower? ›

      Head around the room and capture a picture of the centerpieces, gift table, cake/dessert table and food spread before the guest dig in. Activities– There are plenty of activities at a bridal shower worthy of photographing. Beyond the bride opening gifts, get photos and crafting or games that takes place.

      What are some bridal shower questions? ›

      20 Fun Questions to Ask About the Bride
      • What was the bride's first job?
      • When was the bride's first kiss and who was it with?
      • Who was her celebrity crush as a teen?
      • What was her favorite subject at school?
      • What was the name of the bride's first pet?
      Jul 28, 2023

      How many games should be played at a bridal shower? ›

      With an average battery life of three hours, a bridal shower typically has three games going on at once. If you're worried about making the wrong choices, talk to the bride-to-be and make your decision based on her input. Everything she says is fair game because this is her bridal shower.

      How many hours should a bridal shower be? ›

      Bridal showers typically last 2-4 hours and are not considered an all-day event. Although, depending on the type of shower you are hosting the time can vary. Most showers will either take place in the morning and serve as a brunch, or in the afternoon served with lunch or finger foods.

      How do you show pictures at a bridal shower? ›

      Order 4×4 or 4×6 Prints of photos with each guest's face and display on mini easels or place card holders. Customize one of our Photo Mugs with images of the couple and use them in place of vases to hold your flowers. Our Love Blocks, Colorblock Love and Watercolor Love designs are all great choices for bridal showers.

      Who is supposed to give the bride a bridal shower? ›

      Traditional etiquette dictates that the maid of honor—not the mother of the bride—should host the shower. Nancy is a freelance writer for MarthaStewart.com. Some etiquette rules were meant to fade away into oblivion, like the one about family members of the bride not hosting her bridal shower.

      What color do you wear to a bridal shower? ›

      Pastels, neutrals, florals, and bright celebratory colors are the way to go. And if there's going to be games opt to wear something comfortable. Avoid wearing white, black, or anything that may detract from the wedding festivities.

      What not to do when planning a bridal shower? ›

      Don'ts
      1. Don't confuse the bridal shower with the bachelorette party. These are two separate events. ...
      2. Don't post every aspect of the shower on social media. ...
      3. Don't invite anyone who isn't invited to the wedding. ...
      4. Don't give raunchy gifts at the bridal shower. ...
      5. Don't feel like you have to plan the whole shower yourself.
      Aug 8, 2023

      What is a good budget for a bridal shower? ›

      That works out at $300 to $800 for a 20-person party but can go as high as $150 per person or $3,000 for a 20-person shower. Based on these estimates and an average bridal shower guest list of 35-50 people, a reasonable budget for a bridal shower is between $350 and $7,500.

      Do you open gifts at a bridal shower? ›

      The decision ultimately is yours. It could be a very special moment and nostalgic and it's totally fine to do it! But if it makes you uncomfortable and you'd rather spend the time doing another interactive activity with guests or mingling – that's fine too! Looking for an elegant venue to host your bridal shower?

      What does bride say at bridal shower? ›

      "A bride should thank whoever hosted or planned the event, whether it's her bridal party, sister or best friends," Chertoff says. "She may also take this time to thank her mom and her future mother-in-law."

      How do I make my bride feel special at the bridal shower? ›

      Include the bride's faves.

      This is her day after all! For example, you could serve up her favorite foods and signature drink, decorate in (or wear) her favorite color or reference a film or book she loves in the theme and décor. It's a fun way to make the bride feel extra special on her big day.

      What should a bride say at her bridal shower? ›

      What should a bride include in her speech? In your bridal shower speech, talk about your journey leading up to the wedding, share special memories with the attendees, and express your love for your partner. You can also mention how your friends and family have supported you during this time.

      What can I do at a bridal shower instead of games? ›

      Here, we spoke with wedding planning experts on the latest-and-greatest bridal shower activities and fun bridal shower games:
      • Create a signature co*cktail during the bridal shower. ...
      • Create a sweet memory book for the bride-to-be. ...
      • Play wedding traditions trivia… ...
      • ...or couples trivia. ...
      • Collect date night ideas.
      Jun 29, 2021

      Does the mother of the bride pay for the bridal shower? ›

      In short, the host is the one who pays for the bridal shower—or at least some of it. Most commonly, this is the maid of honor, but the couple's relatives, friends or even the to-be-weds themselves can all pitch in to cover the cost of the wedding shower.

      Does the groom go to the bridal shower? ›

      It's totally up to you and your fiancé to decide whether he will attend the bridal shower. Modern etiquette suggests that he show up toward the end of the shower to say hello and help stock up the car full of gifts. Some men even drop in for a few fun games.

      Who normally organizes a bridal shower? ›

      The maid of honor traditionally takes on the role of chief shower planner. But she isn't a one-woman show: She relies on the bridesmaids to help her with planning logistics. On the day of, the girls run the party, making sure everything goes smoothly and that guests are taken care of.

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